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Indian RELATIONSHIPS
Tips to cope with loneliness:
A fleeting memory of good weekends haunts you since you are now preoccupied with loneliness. Your lonely self prevents you from picking up the phone since you find none to converse intimately. You are consciously aware of the fact that you are alone now, yesterday, tomorrow and days to come. Don't hesitate to accept that that you have none to share your feelings with.
Loneliness greatly disturbs both singles and couples. Some become a victim of loneliness even after getting married.
Aloneness:
Spending sometime alone is of utmost necessity even if you are committed into a marriage, friendship or family relationship. Lets site an example: When someone is deeply in love, spending every moment together becomes the foremost criteria. But it should also be borne in mind that to develop a strong and lasting relationship spending sometime for oneself is also important. Gibran, the great poet says, "A tree cannot grow in the shade of another. Therefore let there be spaces in your togetherness." Closeness begins to feel smothering without loneliness.
Aloneness is a bestowed gift on mankind. People crave for lonely time to get relieved from their hectic schedules in order to re-invent their suppressed desires and interests. They are then in search of analyzing their real self. Jewish tradition says: "A person who cannot have an hour for him/herself a day, is not really a person."
Take the initiative to create space for the endowed gift of aloneness. Express your creative bent of mind by engaging yourself in your area of interests so that optimum satisfaction is obtained.
At times doing nothing is the best thing you can do! Just relax and realize that you need rest to energize yourself.
If you are into a relationship consider how you can devote this time to strengthen your relationship. Maintain proper rapport in order to respect the need for breathing room in each person.
Loneliness:
Aloneness takes the turn of loneliness when you repeatedly find yourself alone. Negative feelings about your self, others, or life crop up. One should then take the initiative to do something different.
If you are committed into a marriage or a relationship don't hesitate to talk to your partner if you're feeling lonely. Make your partner analyze your inner bent of mind like where you feel lonely and your experiences during that phase. Discuss for the proper initiatives to be implemented to come out of the situation successfully.
If you fail to resolve this issue which is further hampering your situation, definitely seek the help of a trained counselor who would definitely help you explore your problem that will pave the path for a successful relationship. |
