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Tips for a Good Indian Marriage
Conscious commitment to eliminate blame, criticism, and invalidation from your side of the relationship should be made every morning. Don't hesitate to acknowledge or apologize your partner if it leaks out.
Pay proper attention to whatever said and appreciate the positive things said or done by your partner even if they are of less significance.
Convince your partner to pen down what he/she feels special about and the things immensely loved. Follow the same procedure for yourself. Exchange lists. Indulge in one caring/loving behavior for your partner leaving apart how you feel about him/her.
Honestly give a glance at the things YOU do that have no helpful contribute to the relationship. If something different is expected you should first take the initiative to do something different.
Compassion should be developed for both the partners in a relationship. Protecting ourselves from “dangerous” situations comprise reactive, defensive thoughts, words and behavior. Notice yourself while reacting to various situations. Ask your conscience "What does this remind me from my past?" The answer to it would be" How should I tackle the situation to be safe for my partner?"
Ask very specifically the importance the things mean to you which you need and ask yourself 'why' they are important to you. Your mind cannot be read by your partner since each one's experiences vary.
New skills for safe and effective communication be developed.
Romantic love and the power struggle should be gauged as the stages on the roade to “real love” rather than merely analyzing as the destination. The keys for healing and growth in a relationship are simultaneously contributed by frustration and conflict.
For an indepth understanding and a proper analysis of underlying issues that fuel frustration in a relationship “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D is recommended to be read that would tremendously contribute for a better relationship.
Getting rid of the partner does not mean merely getting rid of the “problem”. Several relationships can be 'saved' and transformed as well. All you need to do is analyze and take the initiative to save your relationship from getting deteriorated. |
